Meeting people with Huge Ego’s online is pretty common. What is confusing about some of them is that a few think they are actually building a community when in reality they are working on, is growing their Ego.
I see how many individuals create a world around to benefit themselves. Every effort I try to run I try to benefit those around me. I think of my family, friends, and community first. Every time I will act on something my nature makes me think of how it will benefit those around me first.
My overall online approach in building my community
- Two way communication ensures healthy growth of your community. By understanding what your community is expecting from you. When everyone has a clear understanding on what they should expect from you there is less probability of miscommunication on both sides. Always cultivate two way channels they are great for learning and finding solutions.
- Be human. Many people become act like robots online with repetitive behavior that might not inspire any interest . Respond in a way without a rigid protocol (there are always exceptions. Don’t forget to have fun when interacting with your community.
- Be Helpful without expecting anything in return. I have had the opportunity to create great relationships by just being helpful. When you are truly helpful without expecting anything in return you build trust.
- Be Responsive if someone took the time to reach out to you take the time to respond in a genuine way.
- Always be Accesible make sure people can get a hold of you either via twitter, facebook, blog, or your telephone. Make sure you make time for the people that are important. If it is a corporate or personal channel it helps that everyone know the best way to reach you.
- Identifying people with common interests and reaching out to them will help you in keeping the conversation going. Common interest amongst does that interact also helps in growing your community organically and keeping context in everything that is shared.
- Tying your online and offline communities. On many occasions I see people keeping separate communities. I see a lot of value in tying both and making them one.
The Confused Individuals Who Are Only Growing Their EGO
- Self-promotion is the biggest flag of people trying to focus on their Ego instead of building relationships. Examples of self-promotion:
- Re-tweeting when people give you a compliment.
- Always saying how great you are.
- If someone they collaborate with has accomplished something they try to grab all or at least most of the credit.
- Broadcasting does not open up conversation it only launches information. Other traditional channels broadcast there messages and don’t have a channel to receive feedback. If most of the time you are broadcasting your message this can be detrimental to your efforts to build a solid community. Constant broadcasting can be used to self promote and force a message on a group or individual. Forcing a message and having influence are two different things.
- Being destructive when they don’t get what they want. Some individuals decide to take negative actions when the outcome did not play out to their favor. I have seen how individuals who call themselves relationships experts have created toxic campaigns against those that simply un-followed them on twitter, un-friended them on facebook, or just did not agree with them.
- Critizicing everyone instead of creating. Some people find it easier to criticize everyone instead of focusing on creating and building upon what they know or what their community is expecting from them. Too much talking and not much action can clearly put yo on track towards swelling your head and acquiring a bigger ego.
Any recommendations on how to build a community in a healthy way?
It would be great if you could share your ideas on how to stay away from growing your Ego instead of building a community?